Thanks for sharing Newman, did you confront OM? I did and found it fairly useful.
Acc
I finally did get a hold of him early this year. He dodged my calls and my texts possibly to my W's request. My w knew the old me and my temper, I worked on that during my IC, well I'm still a work in progress but I believe I'm better.
Confronting him helped me gained my confidence...I confirmed how much of a liar he is and that love he talks about to my W, no he didn't fight for it. I conveyed to him that I won't go away that easy and he should expect that I would fight for my family. All he can do was lie and deny. I also got a hold of his W, of course she had no idea. I told my SIL because she is a therapist. I felt that I needed all the help I could.
Not sure if the exposure to OM W and confronting OM helped my sitch, but honestly, it did help me gain my self esteem and confidence back.
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
