Questions without answers...I'm tired of asking.

[albamarie]

The stress you are under is not healthy for you.

I would suggest not "throwing" him out, but calmly, during a quiet time, request it.

He is unstable, and with depression co- morbidity with MLC, things won't change until it is addressed. You can not make him get help, or use meds. You can draw a line and stick with it.

I understand this is something that is the exact opposite of what you want to do. I get it, but currently he is not present in your life or marriage, just his body.

I feel for you and with what you are trying to cope. You have an enormous heart and soul. It is your turn to be a good role model and allow your H. to know you care so much that he can manage . He can find his inner strength and break his cycle.

I'm sending an enormous hug, and if I were in your kitchen I would hold you! <3

Hi, thanks for writing.

You make some good points, he does need to break his own cycle, he's going to continue to do what he's going to do. He has actually asked me to care enough to let him finish his journey, I'm not really doing anything to stop him. He stops himself he says out of guilt or compassion for me.

We have discussed him moving out plenty of times. It's actually starting to loose it's power and direction. It's becoming repetitive.

Drawing a line is all I have...I just hope I can continue to stick to it before that to becomes redundant.

Thanks for sharing, and thanks so much for the hug, I'll take it!

Best dm