lovethehub- Why do I not think it is in the boys' best interests to stay overnight at their dad's during the school week? I am a teacher & I have seen LOTS of children of divorced parents over the years and no matter how amicable the D the children are always in the middle-- backpacks left at dad's, homework at mom's, whose house are they going to today?- DK! I believe that it is in their best interest to be in ONE HOME-in my boys case-the home they have grown up in.
It has NOTHING to do with restricting time w their dad. He is a good father & I would not keep them from ever seeing one another.
willbwell- yes, I remember how similar our sitch's are. Thanks for your comments about cute guy. I want MORE than a cute guy. I want the connection and not just the attraction. But, I also think that I WILL find someone to share my life with down the road...sometimes I just get anxious for the future to be now.
I understand the whole "ring" thing too. For me when I took it off in July, I thought I was completely done....ready to D. It actually felt like "living a lie" to wear it... my M was over and I was still wearing a ring- why? So, when I took it off, I felt a little more free to detach and to move toward acceptance. If H and I ever R, he will need to buy me a new ring! LOL!!!
adinva- why does the child custody sitch change based on my M status? Because in my state the minimum amount of overnights usually awarded to the non-custodial parent is 2 nights, so I will have no choice but to agree to an overnight during the week UNLESS I chose to give up every weekend (which I consider to be the best quality time, so will not do that).
PS- I don't think boys see anything between H & I that would lead them to believe their dad is moving back in. Boys and I talk about the situation as it is & I never ever mention the possibility of H coming back. Of course I believe EVERY child of D'ed parents has HOPE that their parents will R, even after D. Even after parents have moved and and remarried. Nothing will ever replace having both mom and dad together in same home.
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
