The fact that you see that sending your own children messages of love is considered "pursuing" shows you have a long way to go in terms of establishing deep relationships in general.
I hope you can stop being afraid of interacting with your own kids.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.