snafu, Well right NOW she doesn't want the you that is you. Nothing you SAY will show her that. You will need to show her by DOING (actions) things that show your improvement.
You are on the right track and you are lucky she has shared with you what you need to improve. I cannot get my H to share that with me right now, so I am doing lots of introspection. Very hard to do by yourself.
But also remember that she is not going to find anything positive about you right now, so make the changes for you to feel better about you.
Keep the hope alive, even when it seems so dire and unpleasant.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
