So my big question is since I was always emotionally disconnected and did not show much affection should I try a 180 on that when I see her tomorrow?
A 180 degree from emotionally disconnected and not very affectionate sounds like a very emotional man who wants to smother his W with hugs & kisses. I would not recommend that approach while shopping for a car seat.
Seriously though, I know what you mean. After the M breaks down and you have a WAW....it is not the time to become clingy, needy, dependent, etc. Yes, she did want those things at one time, but she does NOT want them now. If you do it anyway....you will push her further out of your life.
I can't count how many LBH's say the same thing as you. It is fear that is guiding you, but you must step back and leave her alone. She will need to miss you and the life she had with you.
In the meantime, make goals for self-improvements. That is what you need to work at during this time. Find the man you use to be before you were M. That's the guy she fell in love with. Hopefully, she'll see him again. But right now, she just wants you to back off.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
