I asked D4 to complete it it but she refused. I didn't want to pressure her but I asked again in longer intervals.
She's FOUR!!!! You have GOT to pressure her!
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Each and every time she refused. Finally, she said she wanted her mom to supervise and I thought it was just an excuse.
Of course it was an excuse. She didn't want to do it. Here's what you do- ask once. If she doesn't do it then ask again and say "I've already asked you once and now this is twice, if I have to ask you again you will be punished, I will "----" (with "----" being whatever the punishment is- take away her favorite toy for the evening, or no TV, or take away her blanket or whatever). Then if she refuses again you don't ask, you quietly follow through with the punishment. If you do this once or twice, she will eventually start doing it THE FIRST TIME you ask.
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I played with them a little longer and I asked again. This time D4 shot 'You are not my Father'.
She's testing boundaries like all 4-year-olds. You failed the test, you caved to her. That's OK you can get things back on track next time. Do not be afraid to punish your child, show some backbone!
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I asked her why she felt this way and picked her up for a big hug.
You rewarded her bad behavior! There are times for hugs, that wasn't one of them.
