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Thanks for the encouragement Negril!! I love the support on this board. My only concern at times is that it's wide open to the world to see. Sometimes I wonder if this board should be locked down more so only registered users can read. Perhaps I'll bring that up to the admins. I'm often paranoid about how much I should share here.

You mentioned the affect on kids. There was a point where my older kids were really mad/frustrated with W. They really went over the top with their anger and I had to try to get them to a point where they can try to love their mom no matter what. It was during that time that I tried to explain MLC to them. They sort of get it. My W was actually happy that I cooled them down during that time, but now she's upset b/c it all puts me in good light and seem manipulative. WTF?! I'm at a point where she can be mad at me all she wants, but I still won't tolerate my children ripping their mom apart. It's quite an odd place to be for sure. In the end it will all make for a great novel.

I'd love to hear any advice you have for me!!

ETC