Point is you never know when or how things are going to end up.. a simple piece of paper is not going to keep you together.. the true deep love and friendship that was there before MLC is what will bring her back if it's meant to be.
Bingo! You've got a great attitude! The way I look at things right now in my sitch is that my W is just another possibility for the future. Right now, I really don't know her anyway and I actually think the MLC is good for her to get to the bottom of some issues she needs to figure out for herself. It's a weird place to be, to lovingly detach to the point where you're totally OK with losing your W.
I'm also OK with starting over with someone else in the future when I feel ready. I refuse to do that though until after I've been formally D'd and fully detached. It wouldn't be fair for another person to get involved with them until I've dealt with all my own issues anyhow (and I've got plenty!). So, I just look at all this as my own little MLC journey, only I'm trying to take a healthy approach and I'm learning tons about life. In a certain sense, this is the best thing that ever happened to me. My main concern is how it's all affecting my kids, b/c I know they're having a rough time with this. That's where I wish I could "fix it", but I know that approach would be a cheese-less tunnel. I can only work on myself.
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"Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
