So, she's probably at an 8 at this point then?

Shouldn't there be an attempt to gather information during this "discussion"? Try to find out, specifically, what made her make the decision to enter the A?

How long after your W flipped out on you were you able to talk again?

Vince B
M=10 yrs T=13 yrs
M45 / H 44
2 Boys 5 & 8
D Day: 7/16/13