There's a common theme I've found in much of the reading and research I've done on infidelity. Basically, until the OM/OW is out of the picture, there's really nothing that will impact a WAS in "the fog" of the A.
I see you had the benefit of your W already having her relationship severed by OM. That must play a big role in the overall confrontation success. No?
My DB coach suggested that I tell my W that I made this committment to make improvements to myself for the benefit of myself, kids and marriage. It's based on the fact that my W doesn't know that I'm aware of her A. That's the only reason I told her.
Well, the "blocker" must me the OM. She's so ga-ga over him and spending time with him that I'm purely a pebble in her shoe. On the phone, my W and I can chat, laugh and speak freely. As soon as she walks iinto the house, however, she shuts down and tries to keep herself occupied to minimize interaction with me.
I realize she's cake eating and I do need to make my stand. Right now, I want to build myself up even stronger in her eyes as well as develop the confidence I'll need to survive once I confront her.
I think I'll take a look at "Love must be tough" first.
Did you and your W stay in the same house after your confrontation? How did that go?
That's another thing. I have no intention of leaving my own house. I just bought the thing 3 years ago and my W couldn't buy lunch on her credit!!
I'd be interested to know how this played out for you.
Vince B M=10 yrs T=13 yrs M45 / H 44 2 Boys 5 & 8 D Day: 7/16/13
