NEW LIFE / NEW ME - TAKING OFF!

[Fartiltre]

Well, it seems like some of the problems solved themselves!

W called this morning and wanted to talk about D6. D6 was sad this morning when W dropped her off at school and she had stated “Mom, I just want you – can’t you just pick me up in the weekend so the two of us can have a day for us” W and I talked a little about D6 not having stated any feelings and perhaps they are surfacing now. I can see and feel D6s hurt and I have asked her several times so I hope she will open up now – she needs to address this.

I didn’t comment on the statements from D6 but tried to look at the big picture, kept my tone soft and voice calm, but it hurt me! D6 is hurting and I feel it, and at the same time W just seems so cold and calm, but still pleasant and nice. She seems so totally gone and she is!

After this talk about D6 she asked if I had received her email about the appointments and I told her yes. Then she asked what I thought about it and I told her that I didn’t answer because I wanted to talk about the exchange server. I explained calmly that I don’t know how I feel about her using this and she quite quickly stated that she will move it. Then I told her that I appreciate her sending me notes about what the Ds are doing.

Finally I told her not to make appointment in “my” time and she stated that she haven’t done this. I used the gym as an example of this not being totally true. I told her that I didn’t want to disappoint the children and that I hope she understands. It seems like she did but only time will tell.

I came out a bit weak in regards of her moving the exchange account but otherwise the talk went well – primarily because three ladies posted a lot to me while I slept. So this time preparing an email made a hard talk on the phone a lot better.

The talk was calm, relaxed and somewhat serious. I ended up wishing her a nice day and she send greetings from MIL. A talk like this kills some of my hopes and I need them back – they keep me strong for now!

Total call time: 8½min.

Sandi,

The main point is that she should not have access to your personal calendar.

Agreed, and I also agree to most of the rest in your last post. You are a strong woman with strong opinions and that comes through in your posts! Do keep it that way – it’s exactly what LBHs like me and many others needs. Do not doubt your wordings – I get you points and when I don’t I will ask you.
Still on the path set and one less issue to address

F