NEW LIFE / NEW ME - TAKING OFF!

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Sandi, Adinva, Kate’s - Ladies,

Thanks for caring about me! Waking up this morning and realizing that three strangers have cared for me while sleeping, makes my morning and whole day better.

Let’s take the easy part first:

Also, will your W understand what you mean by "you have some of my items, will you look into it"?

I send her a list august 22 and she told me that she would look into it. Sept. 15 I asked her again and she hasn’t responded to this at all. Knowing her I think she simply forgot and I believe she will understand.

I hope Christmas works out the way you'd like. You plan ahead there!

I know I am ahead but I need to be! I would love for the children to experience a Christmas with a lot of people. My mom and dad are dead and the rest of the bloodfamily and stepfamily is shattered into atoms. I feel asking my neighbors to have us over are almost intruding, but I need this sorted out quickly because it fills my head with unpleasant thoughts. If they turn us down I will need time to find another solution. I fear asking and I hate that I have to do it and that’s exactly why it should be done right away. I hope you understand me.

I mean, I would still be p*ssed but if deleting her from the account is something you feel is necessary for you and is not directed at making your W's life uncomfortable and a "so there" attitude, then you have to do it.

I never meant to come out cranky and to pi$$ her off but it is hard to ask her these things without doing exactly that. Something definitely got lost in the translation, but even if I fill the letter with hearts and smiley’s, the issues (exchange-server, money, her stuff, my stuff and Christmas) will still not please her and some of them will be quite inconvenient for her.

That’s the hard part these days! Standing my ground, doing what I believe is reasonable and fair and at the same time worrying about pushing her further away. Walking this thin red line down the middle between hate and love is a difficult task to me.

IMHO I have to look at us being D now and that fact is explanation enough to all off the points. She is my XW and she is not my friend! Even if she was my friend I wouldn’t allow her access to the exchange-server, I would still want my money and my things and so on. Problem is that the situation is reversed – she already has access so I am not about to turn down a request from her. I am about to take something away that she likes.

I need to find a kind and nice way to state my wishes and to make her see that I am not punitive or vindictive.

KP, you are straight to the point! This will to some extent make her life uncomfortable and it will come out as a “so there” attitude. It does hold a little of this, but that’s not the reason I want her gone from the exchange-server.

I was trying to help him from sounding cranky.

And you did! It is difficult for me to translate a letter like this. It holds small words that I don’t know, local phrasings and so on! What I got from the letter you wrote was a rewrite that made both my English and native letter less cranky. I get the points about the when, how and where from A and KP and believe they hold a good point about the technical issue in this.

And he does sound cranky lmao. If I was to get that email it would put me me in a scr*w you kind of attitude. But then again, I am not a WAS, so I have no idea.

I am not cranky and I don’t want to be
I don’t want to put W in that mood/attitude but I don’t know how to avoid it and I will not avoid asking her these things just because I fear her reaction.


I won’t send this mail today – it can easily wait a day or two or ten. Perhaps this is better on the phone or in person.

Thanks again for caring about me, my life and my sit!
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