You didn't ask me, but I'll answer this anyway, DD.
My wife screamed like a witch with holy water poured on her. Nearly all do. Threatened to divorce me, said she hated me, said she hated me for a long time, etc., etc., etc.
I also survived the tempest, and -- ultimately -- saved my marriage.
What an actively-wayward spouse SAYS and what they MEAN/BELIEVE are two very different things, DD. And it will swing wildly all over the map once they know that you know.
