WAW served me, 2 weeks in, looking for pointers

[MrBond]

"Let's assume she considered it infidelity like if I had a real affair."

You did have an affair. If you virtual sexted another woman, then you cheated on your W.

"I left for work one morning and came back to find she had moved everything out and had met with an attorney to file for divorce."

Something sounds a bit off. Can you give us a little more detail about what happened before that?

"She says she wants an amicable divorce but I know there is no such thing, I have a lot more to lose. I don't want to go that route at all."

Sounds a little selfish. Was she miserable?

"I know the past hurt from sexting is what is driving this, and that she needs to fully forgive me so we can move on."

You're mindreading. I'm sure the sexting was part of it, but I don't think it was just that action that is pushing her. Something else must have been going on.

"I understand what I did was awful, she's never been blacked out so she doesn't have a frame of reference for not knowing what I did or said."

Nor does she need to understand what it's like to be blacked out. You should have been responsible enough to not let it get to that point. It's not her job to understand something like that, AND it's not an excuse on your part.

"I met with her for coffee and to give her car insurance docs. I told her I knew she felt God was telling her this was the right decision, but that I felt God was telling me to keep on trying and left it at that."

Don't tell her what YOU think she is going through.

"I feel like there are a lot of forces working against me. She feels God wants her to end our marriage, I think there is a lot of parental support for getting rid of me as well."

You mention alot about "outside forces" but you just glossed over your actual marriage issues.

"I have made a lot of positive changes in the last year, and especially in the last two weeks. I feel like many of my positive changes went unnoticed and she can only focus on the bad things."

Just because you decided to change a year ago after she's been going through your issues for 3 years prior of marriage, doesn't mean that she needs to now fall at your feet. She has to go according to her timetable. Not yours.

"We are separated now and she is staying with her parents, so I know it's going to be hard for her to figure out she needs me since they are going to meet a lot of her needs."

Mindreading again.

"What words of wisdom or encouragement do you have for me?"

I think your situation can be saved, however you have to be honest with your actual marital situation here.