Who is this woman & what has she done with my wife

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Thanks Cadet. I'll continue reading from your list.

New developments:
Just found out my W started talking birth control pills two weeks ago. I had my own tubes snipped quite a while back, so clearly she isn't taking these for me.

She is going on a week-long trip in October to see old college friends and attend some college football games. About ten of her old buddies are renting a huge house at her Alma Mater. Wonder which old flame she plans to rekindle?

Had a talk with my kids, just to do a check-in and to see if they had any questions. My D14 volunteered that W is being very secretive about everything (BCPs, phone, texts, etc.), and that she is fixated on getting older, her thinning hair, and her wrinkles.
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Question:

I keep hearing I need to GAL and work on my PMA. And that my MLCer has given me the gift of time. Well, frankly, I already have a pretty full life, socially and professionally. I'm a self-employed architect with lots of friends and more hobbies than I have time for. Now I have an entire household to keep clean and running all by myself. So that gift of time W gave me is largely eaten up by doing laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning, and maintaining a large old house by myself. Meanwhile she lives in a tiny clean brand new apartment while sucking our retirement savings dry. Frankly, Getting A Life is beginning to sound a lot like moving on to me. Like my W is.

Now that I find she is about to put herself back on the market for other men (I know what BCPs are for), I have found myself thinking seriously about finding someone younger, hotter, and a lot less mental than W is right now. You know, someone who actually wants to be with me.

I'm not a believer in true love, or in soul mates. True Love is not about pitter-pats of the heart and buuterflies; True Love is about finding someone who makes you happy, and making a commitment to honor and cherish that person to the end, no matter what.

Now that my W has decided to cr@p all over her vows, my kids' futures, and my sanity, I find my patience is beginning to fray a bit. Realistically, I think the chances of a WAS/MLCer coming back are around 15%. And in order to even get those odds, I have to Stand for a year or three before I even find out if my time was wasted. And if she does decide to come back, We will then spend a couple more years in MC helping her to forgive herself, and for me to learn how to forgive her, and to learn how to live as a couple again.

So to summarize, it seems that I have low odds of succeeding in a game where even a winning hand doesn't look so great. And in the meantime, I will have spent years waiting for someone who has treated me with the ultimate disdain, and completely disregarded the feelings and financial security of her own children.

Sorry for being so negative. Feel free to comment.