Acceptance...

[JJAC2005]

I think that there is a bit of a misunderstanding here....to detach is to live as though what the ex does in their lives doesn't effect us because it doesn't include us...dropping the rope so to speak is a term used as you are no longer getting involved in that tug of war over things with the ex.

I understand your excitement to get out socially and find a connection with someone of the opposite sex, especially if its been a really long time.
and it is exceptionally enticing if there is a bit of attraction and chemistry to go with that.
One thing is certain...you want to be happy in life. I think that if God places things in our lives that make it better, we need to acknowledge it for what it is and be thankful for it...and if our ex comes back into our lives, if we truly have done the work we need and understand what we now need in a relationship and how to achieve it without a huge amount of tension or drama....it will move us in the direction we need to be