As far as I can tell, she is still processing, some different books atm. She goes in ebbs and flows, like we all do. Maybe right now it's a phase where she is "doing" work and home while background processing...idk...I try not to look too hard, just try to notice, and not analyze too much.
The advice here over and over is that they take as long as they take, nothing I can do to speed it up, lots I can do to slow it down, so I let it be. Get on with the 80% or so of my life I can influence.
I did get a hug after expressing my desire for one, and it wasn't a side hug and there wasn't any <pat><pat> involved. It was full frontal contact, a "real" hug... But idk, maybe some more being comfortable around me in general. No expectations there, especially IF she is revisting some replay, just a "feeling" I have. If so, I know she has to work that out within herself, like your H did.
This loveless, sexless marriage thingy does have an expiration date, I'm just not sure when it is, I left my reading glasses in the car... Somewhere the line between providing a safe, sane place for someone to work things out, and being taken advantage of, maybe will get crossed, but I hope not.
We are a bit north so didn't affect us, there were some outlying areas that had some, but yes, grateful.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
