M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
W text me last night asking if I had any restaurant vouchers for the vacation she is going on at Christmas that she could buy off me.
At first I was angry because she might as well be rubbing my face in it that she is going away with kids and possibly OM2 and at xmas. Then I thought that it was a strange thing to ask me. She could have looked on the internet or literally asked anyone else in the world. Then I thought that maybe it's more about the fact that she is asking me stupid questions and maybe reminding me on purpose.
Again, I don't know. I thought about for about 20 seconds and simply replied that I don't and went on with my day. I find it helps when I think about how I felt before the text and where I stood. I then act from that place.
The estate agents phoned me up today to say they had a viewer for the house. It dawned on me that even if I wanted to sell it right now I can't because of W's Matrimonial Home Rights. Off the market the house comes then.
Something I have noticed lately that is very random about mind-reading. I'm watching the last season of 'Dexter' right now. The main character (Dexter) will see something, completely mind-read how it got there or the reason why, narrate that to the audience and it becomes fact and part of the story. My eyes have never rolled so much!
Keep it up. This is so good to read!
It's all in attitude and perception. You CAN do this!
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
W text me last night asking if I had any restaurant vouchers for the vacation she is going on at Christmas that she could buy off me.
At first I was angry because she might as well be rubbing my face in it that she is going away with kids and possibly OM2 and at xmas. Then I thought that it was a strange thing to ask me. She could have looked on the internet or literally asked anyone else in the world. Then I thought that maybe it's more about the fact that she is asking me stupid questions and maybe reminding me on purpose.
Again, I don't know. I thought about for about 20 seconds and simply replied that I don't and went on with my day. I find it helps when I think about how I felt before the text and where I stood. I then act from that place.
The estate agents phoned me up today to say they had a viewer for the house. It dawned on me that even if I wanted to sell it right now I can't because of W's Matrimonial Home Rights. Off the market the house comes then.
Something I have noticed lately that is very random about mind-reading. I'm watching the last season of 'Dexter' right now. The main character (Dexter) will see something, completely mind-read how it got there or the reason why, narrate that to the audience and it becomes fact and part of the story. My eyes have never rolled so much!
Keep it up. This is so good to read!
It's all in attitude and perception. You CAN do this!
Thanks Bug,
It is. It's getting easier now I can centre my thoughts away from an emotional reaction.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
The first one sounds good. Is that fair to both of you?
Yes and no. It's subjective.
If we took it to court for them to decide it could more in either favour, most likely W's.
The way I'm looking at it is if I'm willing and can pay it and she is willing to accept it then that is what it is.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
And for many people, money now is better than possible money later.
If you sell the house when you can, I know it seems sad for the kids but the more stabilizing factor for them is having parents who may not live together but can get along for their(kids) best interests. Keep that as your intention.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Yes money now is a lot shinier than possible money later.
I plan on keeping the house if we D. I will remortgage and stay here for the time being. If we can make an agreement and follow it there is no reason why we can't get along.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
T1000, Hope your doing well. I will post more when I get off moderation.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
