I agree with Pudmuddle, ask the kids what they want to do. If they want to go with there father, let them. I understand how hard it would be but some time away from each other could be a good thing. It could be viewed as a 180 and take him by surprise.

Take that time to do something for your self, what do you want to do but never have time to because of the kids?

How about volunteering to serve thanksgiving dinner to the less fortunate? Selfless acts does wonders for the self esteem!

H 37
WAW 32
S 4 (Autistic)
S 2
Together 11 years
Married 6
Bombshell Dec 1 2012
House sold, flying solo June 1 2013.