I don't know if I have the best advice here fmf, but maybe my replying will bump up the thread.

My first thought was, what would the kids want? where would they want to be? And they probably would want both of you there.

I'm not sure, that is a tough one. I haven't even stepped out of my zone to begin thinking of holidays! good grief.

Me:49 H:47
S: 16
T:27 M:25
My EA: 2001
His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013
Separated, but H still in house

Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.