albamarie, that committment may be all that is keeping things going right now. Kind of like being on heavy seas and looking at the lighthouse. In some ways, you are that lighthouse right now.
He's giving you the clues. He feels lost. He feels committed. He is kind of self-aware but doesn't know why the problems. He's blaming you, the house, his life, the cat... but he also knows it's not those things. That's a lot to deal with, no?
But if he doesn't understand, there's no way you stand a chance of understanding. At least you get that
It's funny how it works. Sometimes I get the feeling my ex is trying to re-integrate me into her life somehow. It's way too late in my case, for that. But it's like she doesn't want to face her actions (yet..seems to be changing in small ways) but is still lost and doesn't know why. Just that she wants to blame me. I would guess that's better than feeling so lost you go numb. Kind of like trying to eat cereal while sitting on the ceiling; you'll look for anything to make your world "right side up" but all along you know something's not right. No matter what you convince yourself of.
Don't try to understand him, rather you can understand the bigger picture. And you can understand commitment and a belief he'll get through it. And hopefully you'll still be there.
That's how I read what he's telling you and what you are saying.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
