She has recently started telling me that the reason she is leaving me, is because of all the lies that I have been telling her. She has called me a liar in front of the kids on several occasions. I told her that I to stop calling me a liar in front of the kids.
I said to her that what she may think are lies, are her misunderstanding what I am saying. She cognitively distorts most of what I say and puts a negative spin on it. I believe she does this so that she can convince herself and everyone else that she has good cause for D.
I think she is also trying to get me to react negatively towards her or be lured into an arguement. I don't take the bait and that frustrates her more.
What do I say to someone who is acting this way without coming across as defending myself?
