I am also a LBH (6½ month in) and I only have one advice for you right now!
Read the advice already given to you several times and do follow them. If you don’t understand them then post questions until you do!
My point is that we LBHs simply do not understand the situation we find ourselves in, we do not understand our W and in fact I believe that we do not even understand our own feelings, thoughts and actions. For some of us it only takes half a year to obtain the calmness and the knowledge that makes us realize what we are facing and during that time we hurt ourselves, our children, our W, our chances of a possible R somewhere in the future and then some.
The people that have posted on your thread have the knowledge and the experience to guide you!
Realize also that everything you decide to do or not to do is your own decision. You will meet the best and most caring people in here but it is your life, your decisions, your actions and thereby also your responsibility!
The important part from here is that you act on thoughts and not on emotions. If you are like most LBHs 6 weeks in emotions are raging through your body and mind and that’s not the state of mind you would seek out when about to make major decisions.
– so, once again, do read the advices given to you and try to understand them before you do anything.
I wish you all the best!
F
Me:44 W:43 D7, D5 (S11 from other R)
T: 8y - not M ILYB: 8. Mar 2013 W moved: 1. Aug 2013 LRT: 20. Aug 2013 _______________________________ Do or do not – there’s no try.
