NEW LIFE / NEW ME - TAKING OFF!

[Fartiltre]

Sandi, AS

Thanks for the kind words – mostly I feel I am in a good place and with my path so clear it is quite easy to make the right calls. Thanks both for putting me here!

In fact I don’t feel like reaching out right now. Off course it hits my mind to call her but it also hits my mind to call a friend. I do call the friend and simply leave W alone or call a friend instead. It doesn’t feel that hard but off course I miss the family. The reason I thought about the “cold” is only my everlasting thoughts of not damaging anything. I know by now that I can’t do right all the time but I try very hard not to do wrong – I hope that makes sense!

So Sandi, I will just keep doing exactly what I do! …and I do have the patience.

(To others reading: I changed her picture in my cell to one of the Ds laughing their but’s off – that has helped my PMA when she calls and the picture comes to the screen! Furthermore I have a little routine (two deep breaths, a major smile, think of something funny) before answering that also helps my PMA.)

That is often when the WAW will take a temp check to see where he is emotionally.

How does a temp check look?
How should I respond if it happens?

If she ever ask to meet "to talk" or if she ever gets over into the R talk, then by all means....listen to what she has to say and don't end the conversation.

Got it! She hasn’t invited for some time now! Last thing about getting together was her telling my friend that she wasn’t pleased about me not visiting her house.


AS, thanks for clarifying! Especially the part about the WAW still being a WAW is good to keep in the back of my mind because I calculate that I will still have to treat her like a WAW….if this ever happens!


One more question
I have some practical’s that need to be sorted out:
1. She is still using my exchange server and I wouldn’t give anybody but my W that credit. She is not my W so I want her out. This will be quite inconvenient for her!
2. We used heat for around 800$ when she lived here. I find it reasonable that she pays half. This will be quite inconvenient for her!
3. She still has some stuff in my house and it doesn’t seem like she is planning to move it. This will be quite inconvenient for her!
4. She took some books and a few other things that belongings to me when she moved and I would like them back. I have asked her twice for these items on mail. Last time she didn’t answer.

I have tried to write an email today but it comes out cold so I thought about calling her – but no calls! 1-3 will properly turn into an argument when brought up! Mindreading – YES! But based on experience!
Is this something I should just bring up at some point when she calls me or should I go with the mail?

Thanks

F