Now, should I simply let this divorce run it's course, or are some sort of drastic measures in order? Should I 180 and start pursuing? I have gone as dark as I can for the past week. Only communicating about the kids. Should I do something to forestall the divorce proceeding? If so, what?
Does this sound like a WAS situation, or is she having an MLC? Or both?
How dark should I get? Should I still go with her on Saturday morning walks and coffee after? Or should I do a 180 and withhold my friendship entirely? She still wants to be friends, of course.
No do not pursue, that is not going to end her MLC any quicker.
You do the same things whether it is MLC or WAS.
Personally I would go as DARK as possible. But that is me.
There is NOTHING you can do that is going to speed this process up. But you can slow it down by not detaching, by pursuing and begging and pleading.
So IMHO I want to do anything that will not slow the process down. It already takes forever so the best thing to do is to live YOUR life and stop worrying about her.
