Then don't worry about her feeling you are cold towards her. This is hard for you, I realize. I know you really want to reach out to her, but just remember that she will need to see you are doing quite well without her. With some WAW's, they need to think the LBH is no longer interested in her life or what she does. It triggers something that causes her to want to see if she could still make you interested...."if" she wanted to. That is often when the WAW will take a temp check to see where he is emotionally.
She's not there yet. As often as she contacts you, it's hard to tell how long it may be before she decides to take a little test to see just how well you're doing.
Don't doubt yourself, F. You are doing a really great job!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
