The carer's group sounds like a great idea. They may have some ideas on how to get your H to hear what you're saying about bedtime.
Putting them on the bus means letting them out of your sight LOL . My H worried about S13 walking home from school on his own at age 12, but lets him go out on his bike round the block and around the train station car park (on weekends when empty) without a second thought .
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ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
. My H worried about S13 walking home from school on his own at age 12, but lets him go out on his bike round the block and around the train station car park (on weekends when empty) without a second thought 
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