I went to a mc with my h a few months after we separated. She told us at the very beginning that she wanted us to commit to 6-12 months of counseling before we made a decision either way, which h agreed to.

But less than two months later, after 3 or 4 sessions, he decided he didn't want to go any more. He felt sure that the mc didn't think our m could be saved, even though she told us she'd seen marriages with physical violence, affairs, and drug use make it if both people were willing to try.

So I think you get out of counseling what you put into it. If your h is just going through the motions to say he tried it, but really doesn't think your m can be saved or is willing to try, it's not going to accomplish much.

In all honesty, I think mc works best when the was or mlc decides they want to work on things so you can learn tools for communicating and dealing with issues.

If you do try it, make sure you find a pro-marriage counselor instead of one who will try to help you through a divorce.

M36 XH34
M-5 T7
4/11 H confused
5/11 ILYB
6/11 OW discovered
7/11 I move out, OW over
5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file
9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3
3/13 H/OW break up
H files 4/13
D 6/18/13