ruby, in your scenario, if it feels right, then say it! Don't have any expectations of what your H will say to you, though! After a week of happy vaca (but no space) he may back off a bit now...don't be surprised.
However, he may continue to inch forward toward you!!
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
It sounds like a very romantic week- YOU GO GIRL!!!!!
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
Thank you for the privilege of the past twenty years. I wish you peace, love and happiness.
I get a call. "Am I dying. Are you dying??"
Hahahaha! That's classic!
Reminds me, my 21st anniversary is coming up in a couple of weeks. Last year we had dinner, this year I don't think I'll even mention it because I don't really see us as having been married for the last year.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
My H loves to help people. Feels he has value if he can be of service in some way. Yesterday I had a bit of an emergency and he went above and beyond. ( two words, peri menopause and uh oh)
He was kind and loving and likes to be able to do this. But for me to reciprocate is not his LL, which is hard for me to not do. Like today, he had a migraine and I gave him all the things I thought would make him feel better and he was like "ummm". Lmao!!
I know he is a big physical guy and pretty sure it's his LL. So I touch him when I can.
Any thoughts? When guys say "x" do they really mean "x" all the time? Or are they waiting for us to figure out what they really want? ( girls do this, btw, guys....)
So glad H didn't text or call etc. because I wanted to wield the Whack a Spouse hammer.
Why? You ask.
No reason, no reason at all. It was me. My procrastination, a head cold, too little time and too much to do. Feeling a little sorry for myself and looking for someone to blame.
Looking at the reasons one feels the way one does is not easy. Some pretty ugly truths. But in the end, I took responsibility for my emotions today and just sat with them.
Rumi wrote about the guest house. Emotions should all be welcomed and greeted as friends; fear, anger, resentment. For they may n=be sweeping the house clean in order to make room for the next set of guests
