Hi Jon, yes, I am going to stop asking and I am going to back off. The problem with the latter is then she seems to infer that I'm not interested and don't want her in my life.
It's a silly game of cat & mouse.
I don't have a lot of spare time between work, working-out, keeping the house up, and riding motorcycles, which I guess is a good thing!
During the last session, the counselor said 'your wife is 90% checked-out of this marriage and 10% in'.
The distance, both emotional & physical are doing nothing toward solving our problems; I see it as only exacerbating them.
Ce la vie!
There is no way I will wait indefinitely however. One time she left for close to six months (granted while providing Hospice care to her father), and I met someone during her absence that I came very close to leaving her for. Sometimes I regret that decision.
Me: 46 Ex: 38 Married: 10 Together: 12 No Children Separated (again): 09/06/13 Divorced: 02/27/15
