I was able to keep calm during the entire conversation. I forgot to validate sometimes. We met and he talked about why he wants to leave.. Basically repeating the same things...blah blah blah. He is still on a different wavelength than I am. He feels justified for what he is doing.
He feels that he has done enough soul searching to know that he is not making a huge mistake letting me go and that he has done lots of research when it comes to the effect that it has on kids. I could not help myself to tell him, that he has no clue whatsoever how bad it's going to be. Oh and yes, I started detaching more, and because of that he thinks that I am treating him like nothing, like a dog ( I honestly don't, I just keep conversations brief....). He also feels that the kids are following my atttitude, which is not true, they are acting exactly the same, the difference is that now he is paying more attention to what they do, more than ever before.
He asked if I thought it would be a good idea for him to come to my IC...because we have different versions as to what happened....is that a good idea?
This morning, he said good morning and apologized for being hard on me. I really am feeling like a boomerang. Up and down all the time. He asked me : do you eat, what did you eat, did you sleep ect....next thing you know, he is being mean with me, reminding me how he feels about me etc....
Sick to my stomach
Me 37 H 37 D9 D6 M9/ T12 ILYBINILWY 05/2013 Asked to S 06/13 Said he wants to S for sure 08/13 Said that he's looking for a place (Sept 17/13) No ring on his finger (Sept 19/13)
