I will not settle for 50/50. Again, I know this is selfish, but it is what I think is best for the boys (to stay in one home).
I wasn't saying you should, I was just relating to you that it's 50-50 in my sitch and going from seeing them 100% of the time to 50% isn't as bad as I thought it would be. Having some free time to do "me" stuff is nice. Would I rather be with them 100% of the time? For sure! But my W is a good mom and deserves her time with them too, and the kids deserve time with her as well. No matter what other woman is in my life she will always be their mom, and they need "mom time". There's a message in there that I will leave unsaid
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SO, didn't see cute guy this weekend, which was probably good. Goal is not to text him all this week- we'll see.
Plenty of cute guys out there, this one didn't sound like the right one for your attention from the start. Write him off and get back to GAL. Sounds to me like it won't be long before you catch some other cute guy's attention
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One of those evenings in three busy boys' lives that 2 parents would have been nice.. so I get a little angry H isn't here to help..
And that anger is masking.... pain. Try and see what this really is, it's your H still hurting you. Keep working on that detachment! Try to see this as your "new normal" and make the best of it. Try to focus on the positives instead of the negatives. You're busy because you have the bulk of custody time, which you admitted earlier is exactly what you want. With that comes busy times I'm not trying to play down your hurt, I know you hurt (because I do too) but I also know that you've got the strength to process and overcome that pain rather than let it convert to anger. Anger is easier, but as long as the anger is there the pain doesn't go away.
