Turtle Goddess she of the hard shell soft

[RosaLinda]

Oh good grief Jaye, sorry your H is acting out - it's the old distancer-pursuer dance taken to the extreme huh? Poor S20. Poor Jaye. It hurts to be lashed at like that. 

My mind goes blank too, and "sorry you feel like that H" is my old standby validation statement too for those deer-in-the-headlight moments when he is acting normal and turns on me like a dog. 

I agree with Snodderly, "First chance I get I'm out of here!" is just so much MLC lying spew. He's not going anywhere. Unless of course you decide you've had it and toss him to the street, but I can't see that with how well you've been doing detaching. I also agree about the potential new job. Isn't your other job full time now? Too many hours to be in addition to fastfoodland my friend. 

Jaye "My detachment - for lack of a better word - has kept me fairly steady in the face of both his pursuit and current distance. Its sort of like checking the weather for the day. Regardless of the forecast, I'm still me."

I love this. Love that, despite all the BS of the past few years, you have not lost the essential Jaye. Two people have recently told me that I have lost myself in my quest to reconcile my M. Glad to see you strong and steady Mz. Jaye