I don't understand how your X can refuse to provide financial information in a divorce settlement? Why isn't he in contempt or something? That just seems ridiculous to me.
My H is pulling the same game. Tells my attorney he wants to settle out of court and then when we won't accept his lousy offer or want to add something to protect me he gets mad and says we are being uncompromising and threatens to take it back to court. He is ridiculous.
It will be over one day. I hope. Just keep smiling.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
I can't see how that would work, though. Can anyone else?
I don't trust him one little bit. He will have some plan in the works, and I am worried that I'm just being manipulated into playing his game.
He was getting increasingly desperate for me to 'make him an offer' - and, then, he struck on this new way of getting my L to formulate one by saying that i had agreed to it in a conversation with him, and that L should draw it up.
NLW, ask your lawyer and tell him/her your fears. Ask what could possibly be in H's head and if there could be ulterior motives in this.
I would also ask lawyer if the suggestion that H draw up the agreement would be a better solution.
You can say that "my lawyer has advised me to do it this way"
I smell a "I didn't say that at all" coming. Maybe invite H to a meeting with L and a notary, ask him what he agrees to and get a notarized version of the conversation. Ask your lawyer for a recommendation of how to proceed
Lawyer 's letter sent back to xh spelling out his own proposal. Even though he knows what it will say, i imagine he will go off the deep end with outrage.
This letter crossed with one from child support agency announcing the outcome of the objection to assessment process that i instituted. CS agency got hold of a couple xh's bank accounts and, based on his spending, calculated his income at 3X what he claimed it to be for assessment purposes.
He is livid.
He immediately phoned to tell me he would be stopping payments for S14's private schooling.
Then he emailed D17's school to explain that he needed to bring OW to D17's valedictory dinner in a couple weeks. (This is a celebratory evening for end of school for a group of girls and parents who have been together since kindergarten). D17 is appalled and has asked the school not to let him come.
Phoned me again to insist that I keep the hours between 12 and 5pm on Sunday free as he wanted to see the kids. I told him to arrange it with them himself as I was not aware of their plans - he went ballistic and accused me of keeping them from him.
Then, an email to me announcing that he had just realised he was still paying pet insurance for our recently purchased dog (back story is, he claimed, to S14, that he'd bought him a dog for his birthday, but he took the money from my account to do so - his usual pattern!). Said that we would have to pay for this ourselves now. Of course, I can't... but what a petty a--hole. Great way to get your kids onside!
So nasty, selfish, and cruel. None of us want to have anything to do with him any more. It is time to stop. My health is suffering and the children are being so damaged by his tantrums.
This pattern plays out over and over. Nothing has changed. I should have stopped this a long time ago.
I wouldn't take any more phone calls or texts. Keep it strictly to email so you have proof of these conversations. I almost always encourage people to fight hard, but wow do you need space.
