As far as figuring out what works I am thinking about my actions in the moment. How much to touch her, how long to hug goodbye, how to react to things she says or does..
I think this is gonna drive you crazy. If you have to think about it, then you're gonna be wooden and fake, and you're gonna be sweating.
I do think like this and the last two times I have been with her it has worked out pretty well. Maybe it takes some practice. I act naturally but may decide to do a little more or a little less of something (thinking on the margin like an economist)
Update:
She canceled our dinner Friday and then I didn't hear back until today when she asked if I wanted to meet for I drink. I was busy and said I could meet later in the week so we are on for Thursday...
What I need to work on is controlling my worrying about what she was "really" doing on Friday night. I take her at her word that she had to work but I wonder... And I worry about what she did Saturday night too... That's my problem
Me-45 W-44 T-7 years M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated) Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)
