You need to do what you think is best; follow your gut feeling.
To share about my sitch ... much of last fall was spent in my H having times of connecting closer with me and the boys interspersed with distancing himself from us.
He split our credit cards, we transferred titles on cars, made a budget for me to live on, decided on amounts and length of spousal and child support, etc.
It was a very difficult time. I continued to stick with what my DB coach said. I read almost everything snodderly posted. I cried, I hoped, I GAL.
Hang in there Mtnman. She has to feel like she was permitted to have her own journey.
You can only take so much. Just stick to the basics. Provide for you and the boys. Hold onto your faith. Keep being an awesome employee. Keep looking and smelling good. Know that your feelings ARE important too. She just can't nurture you right now.
I'm rooting for you!
Thinking of you, rH
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway