MyNewStrength, I just read through your posts. I am going through a similar situation, and I know how frustrating it can be! I too, would love to be able to just have the locks on the house changed for peace of mind. I worry he will come when I am not here and start looking through my lawyer notes or something. I have obtained a fire-safe box that locks where I store confidential information regarding the separation. What my lawyer told me as well was that you can get exclusive rights to the house and at that point get the locks changed.
I am going through a lot of the same emotions you are right now too. I am somewhat confused about how everything played out with H telling me he no longer loves me, etc. And now having to deal with the fact that his personality has changed so much and he no longer has feelings for me. And on top of that wanting to separate and having to go to a lawyer and work on a separation agreement. If you have any questions please let me know as we are kind of on the same timeline.
Take care, and as the others on here have stated, focus on yourself and your well-being.
-cp
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
