Getting there with 180 and GALing part 2

[TryingToDo180]

Update - H dropped my son off today and had a coffee whilst he looked through the books that I'd left for him to sort out. He was going to just ditch all of them, but I persuaded him to go through them first. He ended up taking about 3 or 4 of them.
Then he asked me about some camping gear that he wanted - a tent, a sleeping bag and a camping chair. I said is he planning to go camping and he said no he just wants them as I keep accusing him of coming in here and nicking stuff. He said he may take son camping, I said it's the wrong season for it. Something's going on, I know it is! He just won't tell me the truth. I even said to him, just tell me the truth I know that you've already been tagged in a FB photo with OW and daughter putting up a tent on the beach with some German friends of her daughters. He said I am telling you the truth, I'm still not going camping! I still don't believe him. He also commented on how much weight I've lost, he said he noticed it when I was wearing those jeans I had on yesterday. He asked how I've been dieting and I said I've just been cutting down. He said well done anyway. So that's a positive sign isn't it? He also went through the house and asked why I've not had the conservatory roof done and actually brought some ketchup in to the kitchen from the dining table. He stopped himself and said what am I doing? I nearly called him "hun" as well, but just stopped myself just in time.
He's also started wearing a chain around his neck now which is like totally blah in my opinion. He said he has got himself a watch now as well. He never wears a watch, he used to wear a chain when I first met him and I used to hate it then! As for the camping lark, this is from someone who hates camping, lol. Go figure!
He said he wanted to take my son out on his birthday as I’m at college. I said I was hoping he would take him out for dinner as I’m not going to be back until 5pm. He said he’ll take him out in the morning and that’s it and not to make him feel guilty. He asked why I don’t want to see him on his birthday and I said I did but I’m on a college trip all day.
Anyone got any comments about this? I don't mind if I get a 2x4 either, lol.

[2old]

NO 2 x 4 TTD, but, dont forget one of the first things were told here...."believe nothing they say and only half of what they do"

[Pudmuddle]

Yeah, what 2 says!

But maybe not dig that deep and try to have him tell you the truth. He can't do that right now. It's good that he noticed your weight loss and how you looked in some jeans! <--positive!

I find it amusing how they start to do something that they have always done and then have to catch themselves. snicker.

My h has also started doing things that he would have balked at in the past. Or he reverts to things that were in his teen years. Not a gold chain though, lol. Ick - i agree!

[TryingToDo180]

Thanks for your comments 2old and Pud
I'm expecting him to start wearing one gold earring next, lol. He used to wear one when I first met him as well, another blah moment, lol. Looks a bit like Delboy with the gold chain and soon to be gold earring, lol. I've still got his gold earring here, maybe I should give it to him to speed up the process, lol. I read somewhere that when they are going through a MLC, to buy them something like extreme sports to get it out of their system, lol. Either that or they'll realise that they just can't do that anymore, lol. Something like skydiving
I knew that I shouldn't have gone on to him about the camping gear, but it was just such a blatant lie it was frustrating! I mean taking camping gear in Autumn and wonders why I'm suspicious, it's like duh!
Still at least he was a bit positive towards me which was nice for a change

[Not Quitting]

I agree with 2old and pud as well. And no 2x4s from me either - it's so hard not to try and get the truth sometimes. Can you get sodium pentathol without a prescription - LOL

Gold earring and diamond stud in my H's ear, pentagram around his neck and masonic ring on right hand. Only thing that's changed from when we met is the chain is a different one (and it's now on 24/7 instead of just once in a while) and he wasn't in the Masons then. Love the comment about skydiving - only problem with that for me is H was in the army and has more take-offs than landings in a plane as he was parachute trained in the Army. He'd love to go skydiving again. Now, if it was a chance to jump wearing a batwing suit, then that would be something new for him.

I'm sure they think we're idiots sometimes, the lines they come up with .

[MileHigh]

I'm going to break from the crowd just a bit. No 2x4. Not even a 1x2. Just a little poke with a stick... . I can understand the desire to *know* stuff, and to try to pry. But if they're going to lie, they'll keep it up, even if the lies are weak. Prying is like snooping. Usually doesn't reveal anything that makes us feel better or improve our sitch. Lecture done.

Speaking of lumber, is there a metric-centric name for lumber, instead of 2x4, 4x4, etc.?

I am in full agreement on the chains and earrings. Ick. Any new tattoos?
NQ and TTD, are your hubbies hanging out at a pub together, comparing jewelry and planning reckless MLC activities?

[TryingToDo180]

I agree NQ, I think they do think we're idiots Like the comment about the batwing suit
MH, You made me LOL with that comment about our hubbies hanging out in a bar together. My son was standing near me when I was laughing and asked me what was funny. I said it was just something I'd read on FB hehe
Ok so I won't pry again, I'll just get frustrated instead, grrrrr. I asked Siri what the metric for a 2x4 and he said 8, lol. I dunno the answer to that one
No new tattoos, but I'm sure after the earring that'll be next. after the rings of course

[MileHigh]

Remember, when you get frustrated, there are plenty of chores to do. Keeps your mind occupied....

So I say, as I sit here surrounded by unfinished tasks....

[TryingToDo180]

lol MH, I was only frustrated when my H was here and blatantly lying to me. When H had left, I had my friend round and we waxed each others legs Her boyfriend took my son to the pub for a few games of pool That was great! My son has never bought a round of drinks before and when my friend's boyfriend asked him to go and get a round, my sin went to the bar and said can I have a round please. Once my friend's boyfriend stopped laughing, he told the barperson what he wanted. Bless him I should have told him that my son takes everything literally! Still it was a cool afternoon for my son and for me as well
Talking of chores, I've started emptying the bookcase in the living room ready to move. Problem is my friend wants to borrow my steamer so I won't be doing any wallpaper stripping, lol. I'll have to get my friend to come round to help me after she's finished doing her decorating Note I didn't just say stripping here, lol.

[Not Quitting]

They are so frustrating when you know they are lying, aren't they.

No H today - he'd said earlier this week that he might not show up today as he had a security gig last night that wasn't scheduled to finish until the wee hours of the morning. S13 wasn't worried and didn't seem to miss him, other than to say he wants to see his dad's boo-boo (he knows about the head injury from Wednesday night).

No chores - unless you count the laundry and groceries that I couldn't do yesterday because of volunteering with the Cadets. S13 and I just had a nice quiet do-nothing day.

Love the comment about our H's comparing notes in the bar LOL. I never liked the earrings, but he had them before we got together so I couldn't really complain. He already the ink as well - with the exception of a few new ones (one for each of our sons, one for me done over his heart - hmmm, what's he gonna do about that one now ). Maybe I should get some new ink and have my own MLC

I think my dad's been listening to me telling my son we're going to have to do some decluttering. He's managed to fill three garbage bags with something - and we have a two bag limit for garbage here or we have to pay for tags so the extra bags will be taken. Might have to hold off on my decluttering until those bags have all been taken - unless I can add an extra bag to the neighbour (he usually only has one bag :)) . Just when I was getting all fired up to get started as well.