I would say nothing and do nothing about her contradicting statements.
My h told me for weeks he was going to move out and get an apartment and he did nothing to move forward with that. After he spent an hr in counseling telling the C he was moving out when we got home I told him to pack his things and get out. I couldn't take the empty threats any more.
To this day he says I kicked him out.
They are nuts. Let her live in her contradiction. Don't call her out on it
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13