I agree with doing what works....basically the "cheeseless tunnel" discussion in DB. The difficulty is in breaking down what "works" means. At this point, it's not reconciliation. You are thinking it, but your W probably is thinking of it completely different at this point (see bug's point). So my point is to balance that with no expectations and living in the moment.
If your W says, "I would really like someone to bounce some ideas off of," that may be all that it is. If you are ok with it, then go with it and enjoy it....for what it is.
