Mach1 has told me many times, "this isn't a game, but sometimes it plays like one." I think it's a razor thin line, and you seem to be approaching it more as a game. Stop thinking "is this working?" and start thinking "what do I want...right now?" This isn't about manipulating your W into wanting you back.
Certainly right now doing what I want or what I feel like doing would be counterproductive. I feel like having a logical conversation with my w explaining to her how we would really be great together and that I have made some great changes and we should give it another go. I am pretty certain that would not work, although I have not tried that approach. While I am always going to be ME (so I will not be deceptive by pretending to be something that I am not), I am going to choose to not do things that don't work. I am defining "doing what works" as things doing things that lead to reconciliation. At some point I hope w is interested in reconciliation and at that point what I want to do and what works I expect will be much more in line.
Me-45 W-44 T-7 years M-3 years (4th anniversary July 13, but we're separated) Kids from previous relationships (s14 d16 mine, s23, s24 hers)
