RL, Please do not try to convince your friend that she may be in mlc. Why? Because she doesn't want to hear it and I can assure you, if you continue to try to talk to her about HER behavior, she'll distance herself from you. Mlcers do not like to have their pointed out to them or even remotely diagnosed as having mlc. The best thing you can do is listen and observe. You'll learn quite a bit if you can sit quietly while you are there.
Oh, they all can be supportive of our situations, but when it comes to them, it is very different. I've seen this happen many times. My GYN was very supportive when I advised him of my situation and he was telling me what his wife would do to him if he had a crisis. Well, 9/11 came along and when I went for my annual visit, low and behold...guess who was in crisis. My doctor! He came in wearing a tee shirt and shorts and talking a mile a minute about life is far too short and that he was getting a dog because he never had one as a child and a dog would love him unconditionally, etc., etc. Soon after that visit, he announced to his associate in the practice that he was leaving that day and would not be returning. That's how his crisis went down. So, yes, they can be critical of others, but can't see themselves in the mirror as to what's happening to them when the crisis comes a calling.
It will be interesting to see how your h makes out w/his dental procedures. Hopefully nothing will go wrong.
Enjoy your vacation and accept your friend as she is right now, even though you know she's not herself and doing something wrong. I would hate to see you lose the friendship over discussions of her mlc.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
