I'm going to put my 2 cents in on " who actually filed for the D"
It's such a technicality at this point. It's the events that lead up to the actually filing of the D. It's not who put the paperwork in.
Your kids will know you fought for your marriage. That you tried. And you really did. They will know who left and who committed the adultery. If these are things they really wanted to know. I highly highly doubt they are goi to say " but you filed the paperwork first"
I'm retrospect, I think the " let the spouse do all the work of they want the D" is a bunch of BS. There comes a point where it is inevitable but you need to financially protect yourself and your kids and protect your schedule and time with the,. THATS what your kids will see. Not the stupid paperwork.
In retrospect, the actually divorce was simply a piece of paper. My ex left me and our marriage the night he left me and our baby. When he was leading a double life with Ow when I was pregnant. All the actual divorce did was financially define us.
It doesn't matter who files. It matter what lead to it.
Thanks for the input GM,
That makes sense.
The D is a result of what has happened before it. She left, she started R outside of M and she decided this path even with the commitment I was willing to put forth.
A bit like a lot of paperwork in life, all it does is legally define it.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
