As rH pointed out, you are doing great. This is not an easy walk in the park and if your w has this "need" to run away and be on her own, then it's time to step back and let her go. Open that cage door and allow the little bird to test her wings. It's the only way that she will learn about herself and what she's capable of doing, i.e., in other words grow up. She needs to find herself and the best way to do that is being out in the cold, cruel world w/o the protection of her marriage and husband. She definitely needs a lot of time and space and when she has those things, hopefully she'll soon discover that home is where the heart is and want to return.
I'm sorry it's come to this, but I think it is what she needs now in order to find her way back to you.
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks to you both. I've been dreading this and praying it wouldn't go this far. But, it has. I'm not surprised really. I'll wait to see if she goes through with anything. Wouldn't be the first time it was all talk. I have a hard time letting go. It's really no wonder she's at this point lol. I'm not giving up.
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
I'm ao familiar with that push/pull cycle. It does feel crazy! That's why you have to be the sane one. Stay in the middle of the road
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
W stayed here all day since games were canceled for weather. We watched home movies of when the boys were babies. Reminded me how wonderful she was. Maybe reminded her too? She went out with a friend and me and the boys went on our own to have fun for the evening. When we returned all her stuff was/is still here. S9 asked if she was staying here tonight. I said I didn't know. Weird.
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
Hi FY! It was not my idea at all. It was S9 and W! I argued for football. In the end it was just w and me watching.
I have no clue what to do, honestly. I don't know whether to confront her and say we agreed to start dividing assets/bills/etc, and to tell the boys the truth, or to wait and let her lead on this. A large part of me wants to force her to do it and let her have what she keeps asking for. I'm tired of the confusing msgs she sends to me and, especially, to my boys.
She showed up at midnight and went straight to bed in the guest room. It took a lot of will power not to go make a move. Torture lol
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
