Thanks, AS! I can always count on you for support and perspective!
You are right not to fear what I cannot control. HOWEVER, I know there is flexibility in what child custody looks like. The boys having been living ONLY WITH ME since H moved out with occasional sporatic overnights.
If possible we want to use a mediator BUT I may resort to a lawyer if ultimately it will gain the boys the gift of living in only one home during their school week. (And, yes, it is the selfish mommy in me talking too. I did not ask to be a part-time mom & I may go to battle over this... it is too important to me!)
I will not settle for 50/50. Again, I know this is selfish, but it is what I think is best for the boys (to stay in one home).
S10 had a very difficult week--weepy and irritable. Voiced his sadness over "dad not living with us any more" three nights in a row! He even asked to see the C at his school on two different days. It kills me to see him so sad and upset. H is aware and is trying to make an effort to spend more one-on-one time with him this weekend (which is good).
This has given me negative thoughts toward H--hate that this sitch has affected my boys & breaks my heart when they are sad.
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.