It's exciting, stressful, and sad that we're moving forward.....but, you're right, it has to get done and I'm the one having to do it.
The boys run hot and cold with their dad. S18 is like a ping pong match with wanting to see/talk to dad and wanting to hide H's tools so he can't take them. lol H mentioned, he was SO PROUD of himself, that he even tried helping S18 fix the dishwasher by getting him to take a photo of the problem and offering solutions and S18 never told him how it went. I responded "Well, have you considered they're angry with you?" H said all S14 wants to talk about is video games. I said "it's his defence mechanism and even with me he'll say something only every once in a while....it takes time"
It's funny that you say he's crying "poor me the victim" he accused me of playing the victim (during our 40 minute conversation) where I told him I'm no victim but am the one doing all the work which is a statement of fact and nothing more. I honestly think he secretly prayed that I would fall apart and he could prove to himself he was somehow the glue that kept the house going......well, it didn't, as he figured out with his "nothing has changed for you" statement. I find myself saying what I need to say without getting angry or crazy but not taking any crap either. It's freeing.
He's not into a "split the tool day" as he's willing to give up furniture to get his tools. I'm the oldest daughter of a carpenter that never had sons, I know more than most men about tools, so he knows there's no way he's getting away with anything. I actually hid my dad's framing hammer, he gave it to H years ago, but if he thinks he's taking my dad's $150 hammer he's on crack! LOL
Someone should get H a paddle for the river......He doth protest too much me thinks. Although, I don't truly believe there is another woman at this point, it's just a VERY touchy subject for him with his own family's past.
Thank you for your weekend wishes. I'm going dancing with the girls Saturday night (I LOVE TO DANCE!!) and H is at a funeral for a man he used to work with.
You have a wonderful weekend too!!
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
