I told my brother about what the L said. He has been the most understanding person I have spoke to about any of this. His reply was, "well it has to be divorce then". I had a weird feeling when he said that. Offended a little bit.
I feel like I have held on for over a year to keep the M going and now it's a financial need that is moving this.
Based on what you posted on the previous page, it really does sound like you're between a rock and a hard place. Basically the two viable options are status quo or D. Status quo leaves you in financial limbo for an undetermined amount of time. D frees you up to refinance the house and gives you some financial relief. It's a tough decision. If it were me, I would go with status quo, because I think your W is going to pursue the D anyway for the sake of the $$. Personally I just refuse to do my W the favor of taking care of the D for her. I want her, our kids and all our friends and family to know that SHE left and SHE filed for D, not me. But you may feel differently, and that's fine if you do!
I guess I'm not that bothered about what others think other than the kids. I don't like the thought that later on in life they might find out I was the one that D. I have never thought about it before until now.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
