One giant leap forward! - Part 7

[sandi2]

He wasn't trying to offend you, just support you. One day you are ready to end it, and then you come back with some answer about "financial need" pushing it. This sounds like the old T when you talking.

Actually, the fact you were a little offended at your brother's statement (which wasn't an offensive remark at all) is b/c you still have that feeling of a H protecting his W if anyone says something negative. It's normal. However, if a D is coming, you need to get over that feeling.....especially with your family.

I hope financial needs is not the reason for you filing for D. B/c I am concerned you would always hold some bitterness and blame this financial stitch. 'If only it had not been for my financial woes, we may not be D now'......that kind of thing. That would not be good for you, T. If you file, it needs to be b/c you decided to move forward with a new life.....NOT b/c you feel trapped or pushed by your finances.

Don't allow this new problem to cloud your mind of how things were before you got that mail about the house. As long as you have options, then you continue to be in control of your life by choosing the best of those options. Get advice, try to stay focused on what's most important...and then you make your decisions.

((T)) I understand how you want to keep the house that was the original home place for your boys. But as young as they are, it would not be as important to them as it may be more an emotional attachment to you. And, speaking as one who has remortgage our home....several times, it becomes such a big financial burden when you are in retirement years and still have the large debt. You are still young and could get another house with a better financial plan. It would be a new beginning and may feel quite freeing for you. (Just a suggestion). I hate to see you buried under all that heavy mortgage, b/c even though it may relieve some financial weight presently, it won't help down the road.