Originally Posted By: littleGTO
"long hugs" instead of "pity pats"


Sadly, I know just what you're talking about. After BD nearly every hug W gave me she pounded me on the back like I was a rarely seen and not-much-liked uncle, LOL! I finally just quit hugging her after a few months of that. Then she started initiating hugs and they were the long hug type, but that too stopped (no telling why). Haven't touched her in any way in months, and I don't want to.

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-I am NOT afraid of losing H b/c I M is over, but am VERY fearful of losing time w my boys & them losing the life of ONE HOME


Don't fear what you can't control, just accept it and deal with it. You are a very, very strong person, I have complete faith that you can do this smile W and I have 50-50 custody, we switch off every week. I certainly don't like it, but it's my "new normal" so I decided why not make the best of it? So I use my "alone" weeks to do stuff that I never had time for before. Before BD I always felt guilty doing anything just for me, not anymore!!!

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-Just "sitting" right now & trying to find peace in the calm; finding more happiness now than in a long time... smile Living my life!


Yeah, that's the stuff laugh


Me: 60 w/ S18, D24, D27

M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:57